Why I Started MWMW
I’m Chloe Bass – wife, mother, life transitions coach for moms, and founder of Making Working Motherhood Work.
I remember during the discomfort of pregnancy, a work colleague once told me, “Just wait – the real challenges begin once they’re out.” I naively discounted what he said, thinking, “That’s just a man’s perspective. Plus, I’m great at flexible, multitasking, I don’t require a lot of sleep – I’m gonna be fine once the baby is born.”
What I did not know was that he was 100% right!
Working motherhood was harder than I expected!
Working motherhood was harder than I expected and I was not prepared! I wasn’t prepared for the hormones swings as my body adjusted to sleepless nights and breastfeeding. I knew that I could survive on 5 hours of sleep, but didn’t know that I wouldn’t be getting 5 consecutive hours of sleep, thus making the sleep I did get less powerful. I didn’t know that while my baby weight would come off relatively quickly, my body would still need months for things to come back together and heal. I didn’t know that our childcare arrangement would fall through three weeks before I was going to return to work. I didn’t realize how quickly my son would change and grow, so it would seem like just when we
got into a comfortable routine, he’d be in a new phase that would require my husband and I to grow as well, adapting to meet his new needs. I didn’t expect my son to have food allergies to many different things which made weaning difficult.
On top of all that, I was tired – no, EXHAUSTED.
And I wasn’t alone.
Talking with my friends, they all shared these feelings. We all had days where we were so happy to be working and days where we were so sad to leave our babies. We wrestled with wondering if working outside the home was the best choice, but in the end for various reasons, decided it was. We all wished for more help to make it through a really exhilarating, yet challenging time.
That is why I decided to create MWMW.
Moms need support
In the early months, I read so many books, talked to so many people, trying to figure out how I would make it. One of my most common prayers was, “Oh God, please help me. Please help us…” God did. We made it. My husband and I love each other more than ever. My son is happy and healthy. That doesn’t change the fact that I found the transition to working motherhood to be the most radical one I have ever experienced and I have lived on three continents, been working for over 15 years, been married for a number of years now - it's really like nothing else! I looked around for a program like this and couldn’t find one, so I decided to create it myself.
I love the “tree of life” image that shows up in many cultures as a great analogy for the potential that we have as women and as mothers. “They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.” When we are nourished, we give life and nourishment to many. The key is making sure that we stay nourished enough to give to others. I see coaching and MWMW as one way of doing that.
Here's a little more about me:
• Certified Professional Coach (CPC)
• Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner (ELI-MP)
• Licensed Minister
• MA International Administration, Humanitarian Assistance and Human Rights
• BA Biblical Studies, concentration in Biblical Hebrew and Communication, concentration in Public Relations
I’ve moved a lot, so when people ask me where I’m from I usually just claim America! I was born in Pennsylvania, most of elementary school was in Ohio, middle school was split between Ohio and Oklahoma, I went to high school in Oklahoma. For undergrad, I went to Eastern University outside of Philadelphia. That’s where I met my husband - though we didn’t really like each other at the time… (another story for another day) I had a semester abroad in Jerusalem, Israel. After college I moved every year or two with stints in New York City; Dallas, Texas; Castle Rock, Colorado (for grad school at Josef Korbel School at the University of Denver); South Jersey; Liberia and now Washington DC.
With the exception of two glorious years at Starbucks, most of my career has been with non-profits and INGOs because I love helping people with my work. I’ve worked domestically in foster care and internationally in international development focusing on food security, gender, and women’s economic empowerment.
I was promoted while pregnant and when my son was a toddler, so I also have firsthand experience in advancing your career while being a wife and mother.
I live in DC with my husband and son. I’m a part-time vegan. I love to eat, read, do yoga, spend time with my husband and son, and get a nap in when I can!
I have/my work has been featured in Fairygodboss, Mommifaceted, Working Mom Life, and the Moms Who Side Hustle Podcast.